Dr. Les' Marital Videos are arranged by topical area and are designed to help you learn about yourself and each other. Click on any video title to the right to watch the video. Enjoy!

Marriage - Back to the Basics

• It's About Love (6 min)

• Recognizing Worth (6 min)

• Staying Friendly (6 min)

• No Doubt About Commitment (5 min)

• No Secrets (6 min)

• Demeanor (4 min)

• Forgiveness (6 min)

• Humor (6 min)

The Nature of Love

• Four Kinds of Love (8 min)

• Expressions of Love (9 min)

• Keeping Love Alive (7 min)

• Secrets to Loving Exchanges (6 min)

Traits For A Thriving Marriage

• Humility (6 min)

• Self-Restraint (6 min)

• Objectivity (7 min)

• Anticipation (6 min)

• Empathy (8 min)

• Kindness (9 min)

• Confidence (6 min)

• Respect (5 min)

• Joy (6 min)

Maturity in Marriage

• How Mature Are You? (7 min)

• Real Strength (6 min)

• Beyond Binary Thinking (5 min)

• Being on Mission (6 min)

• Clean Use of Anger (7 min)

• Lifestyle Responsibility (7 min)

• Balanced Relationship Space (5 min)

• Being Expansive (7 min)

Empathy: Marital Glue

• The Beginning Point of Empathy (6 min)

• Read Behind the Scenes (6 min)

• The Power of Likeability (6 min)

• How Closeness Develops (6 min)

• The Gift of Peace (5 min)

• The Mechanics of Empathy (6 min)

• Traits of an Empathetic Person (7 min)

• Descriptive Communication (6 min)

Managing Marital Tensions

• Drop 'You' Communication (6 min)

• Adjust Your Expectations (6 min)

• Give Priority to Sex (6 min)

• Love is Spelled T-I-M-E (5 min)

• Avoid Extreme Communication (5 min)

• Monitor Your Reputation (6 min)

Forgiveness

• Why Forgive? (6 min)

• What Forgiveness Is/Is Not (7 min)

• Anger and Forgiveness (5 min)

• Resist the Superiority Game (8 min)

• Let Grief Run Its Couse (6 min)

• Humility's Role in Forgiveness (7 min)

• Forgiveness as a Positive Springboard (8 min)

Codependency

• Recognizing Codependency (8 min)

• Codependence and Unmet Needs (8 min)

• Trained Incompetence (6 min)

• Choosing Healthy Traits (6 min)

• Identifying Emotional Independence (7 min)

• Addictions (6 min)

• Seven Keys to a Balanced Life (7 min)

• Exchanging Unhealthy For Healthy (7 min)

Sex & Intimacy

• The Purpose of Sex (6 min)

• When Sex Becomes Ho-Hum (7 min)

• Weight Issues and Sex (7 min)

• If Your Spouse Was Sexually Abused (4 min)

• Managing Sexual Temptations (6 min)

• Developing Heart Intimacy (5 min)

• Let Sex Be Fun (5 min)

Conflict Escalators

• Assumed Hostility (5 min)

• Being Controlling (5 min)

• A Critical Spirit (5 min)

• A Closed Mind (5 min)

• All or Nothing Thinking (5 min)

• Excessive Pleading (4 min)

• Hearing to Rebut (5 min)

Dealing With Difficult People

• Intrusive People (6 min)

• Unaware People (6 min)

• The Passive-Aggressive (6 min)

• The Finnicky Perfectionist (7 min)

• The Curmudgeon (5 min)

• The Rager (6 min)

• The Party Animal (7 min)

• The Avoidant Partner (7 min)

• The Hyper-Jealous Spouse (5 min)

Anger

• The Purpose of Anger (8 min)

• Suppressed Anger (7 min)

• Openly Aggressive Anger (8 min)

• Passive Aggressive Anger (10 min)

• Assertive Anger (7 min)

• Releasing Anger (4 min)

• Uprooting Bitterness (6 min)

• Wasted Anger (5 min)

Control

• Control and Appeasement (8 min)

• Dropping Duty (7 min)

• Anger Without Coercion (7 min)

• Respecting Freedom (6 min)

• Develop Calm Confidence (5 min)

• Pull Back From Appeasing (7 min)

• Becoming Affirming (5 min)

Defensiveness

• Creating a Defensive Atmosphere (6 min)

• Three Kinds of Defense (9 min)

• What Are You Afraid Of? (6 min)

• Drop the Insults (6 min)

• Employ Calm Confidence (6 min)

• Use Clean Assertion (7 min)

Insecurity

• Defensiveness (4 min)

• Forceful Anger (5 min)

• Being Judgmental (6 min)

• Suppressed Emotions (6 min)

• Lust (8 min)

• Worry (5 min)

• Laziness (8 min)

• Closed-Mindedness (7 min)

• The Silent Treatment (7 min)

Insist/Resist Communication

• Insist/Resist Pattern (6 min)

• Meet the Insister (7 min)

• Meet the Resister (5 min)

• Give & Take Communication (6 min)

• Covert Messages (6 min)

• Individualizing Growth (5 min)

• A Spirit of Equality (8 min)

• Realistic Expectations (5 min)

• Dropping Myths (6 min)

• Compromise (6 min)

Manipulators

• Recognizing Manipulators (7 min)

• The Guilt Inducer (7 min)

• The Rager (8 min)

• The Over-Giver (7 min)

• The Evader (7 min)

• The Hyper-Emotional (7 min)

• The Self-Righteous (8 min)

• The Chameleon (6 min)

• Intrusive People (6 min)

Life With A Narcissist

• Traits of a Narcissist Part I (7 min)

• Traits of a Narcissist Part II (6 min)

• What to Avoid With a Narcissist (9 min)

• Guilt Trips Created by Narcissists (7 min)

• Anger Generated by Narcissists (9 min)

• Insecurity With the Narcissist (7 min)

• Staying True to Yourself (7 min)

Domestic Abuse

• Indicators of Abuse (6 min)

• The Cycle of Abuse (7 min)

• An Accusing Mindset (6 min)

• Your Angry Response to Abuse (7 min)

• Can the Abuser Change? (8 min)

• How Not to Respond to Abuse (5 min)

• Why Abusers Abuse (8 min)

• Should You Separate After Abuse? (6 min)

• Recognizing Post-Traumatic Stress (8 min)

• Overcoming Post-Traumatic Stress (8 min)

Extramarital Affairs

• Once an Affair is Discovered (7 min)

• Removing Deception (7 min)

• No More Deservedness (7 min)

• Dropping Loyalty to the Other Party (7 min)

• Resuming Sex After the Affair (6 min)

• Establishing Freedom (7 min)

• Addressing Insecurity (6 min)

• Uncovering the Anger (7 min)

• Committing to Humility (8 min)

• What About the Kids? (7 min)

• Should We Divorce? (9 min)

• The Desire for Revenge (7 min)

Separation and Divorce

• 10 Signs of a Troubled Marriage (8 min)

• Primary Causes of Divorce (8 min)

• When Should We Separate? (7 min)

• Reconciling After Separation (7 min)

• Divorce and Children (8 min)

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